I did most of the talking...shock and surprise :-) He outlined that his plan was basically like the constitution...ever evolving. Tries to meet the client where they are and help them find out and get to where they are going. So...big obstacle I have faced in therapy perhaps will not be an issue here...that being a continual focus on what the the therapist thinks I need versus what I need. He said...we can talk about Jesus one day, wine and women the next.
While the state may not consider that a goal and will require more stringent wording with a clear goal. Well our goal is all the same, my recovery, its the trip we take to get there that I maintain needs individualized, personalized treatment plans. If DBT works for some, great. If music therapy is the answer, great. If healing old wounds is the path then great...we each can get there sharing some treatment but we each need treatment to be applicable to our situation, to meet us where we are and safely get us to where we need to be.
The "illogical" part is thinking when someone's suffered a traumatic event(s) in their life there is a "certain way" to fix that. The needs of each individual will vary, what works for some may not for others. It's not like it's a brake job that any 'ol mechanic can fix.
Sometimes its a simple comment. As we wrapped up he said, "Michael you have had enough grief to last 10 lifetimes." So in one hour he saw to my core. My pain, unresolved. Grief cycle way out of whack. Can't rush to (Radical) Acceptance as that's the last step of the grief process.
Don't rob me of my right to heal. Don't put a time table on it. Don't pigeon hole me into one way and one way only.
CVA people. That's a big part of what it takes.
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We are not asking our friends or families to be out therapist/psychiatrist/case manager. Just let us know you care, you can see we hurt and then help us overcome barriers to our treatment. But we know we have to do it.
One of my struggles has been with not wanting to leave my "fantasy" world, where its safe. Emerging into this "new world" (for me) is not safe, its scary...I don't like it. It's wrought with pain, greed, the almighty dollar, time away, success, spend, more hours, spend more.
No wonder they call it a Rat Race.
So.....from all of us that don't fit into your mold here is what we say to you :-)