When Brandon Marshall was diagnosed a few years back I so admired his courage. Of course I never knew I was suffering from the same thing. When the Bears got him I was so excited...one of my favorite players who happened to be a star was coming to my team (BEAR DOWN) In addition he was suffering and succeeding with a stigmatized disorder.
When the Richie Incognito story broke I saw an interview with Brandon. It was so deep and insightful I literally thought "No way he has anything wrong with him, this is the most solid statement" Again, little did I know I had lived my whole life under the very thing he talks about
“Look at it from this standpoint,” Marshall said. “Take a little boy and a little girl. A little boy falls down and the first thing we say as parents is ‘Get up, shake it off. You’ll be OK. Don’t cry.’ A little girl falls down, what do we say? ‘It’s going to be OK.’ We validate their feelings. So right there from that moment, we’re teaching our men to mask their feelings, to not show their emotions. And it’s that times 100 with football players. You can’t show that your hurt, can’t show any pain. So for a guy to come into the locker room and he shows a little vulnerability, that’s a problem
Well...maybe I just want to cry awhile. Maybe I just need enough time to grieve to come back a stronger person. Maybe my true friends will show up. No maybe here...all of the above WILL give me some validation.
There have been a few people who have given me support and hopefully they know who they are...one is my niece and she is so strong, kind and understanding.
Speaking of which....to those that don't know how to reach out to those of us with MH issues, for whatever reason...stigma, lack of understanding, uncomfortable, etc...all we want can be found in a paragraph of an Alabama song
Check out the 1:48 mark
When life held troubled times, and had me down on my knees
There's always been someone, to come along, and comfort me
A kind word from a stranger, to lend a helping hand
A phone call from a friend, just to say, I understand
But ain't it kind of funny, at the dark end of the road
That someone lights the way, with just a single ray of hope