Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result.
Another mass shooting. Clearly racist. High probability of a serious MH disease. Lots of talk about what do we do, where do we go. I have been re-blogging an entry from last Winter that I wrote last Winter
When MH is stigmatized it becomes hard for a man to seek treatment. I have posted a quote by Brandon Marshall several times, well again it just fits this conversation. When you read it, read it out loud and listen to his plea.
“Look at it from this standpoint,” Marshall said. “Take a little boy and a little girl. A little boy falls down and the first thing we say as parents is ‘Get up, shake it off. You’ll be OK. Don’t cry.’ A little girl falls down, what do we say? ‘It’s going to be OK.’ We validate their feelings. So right there from that moment, we’re teaching our men to mask their feelings, to not show their emotions. And it’s that times 100 with football players. You can’t show that your hurt, can’t show any pain. So for a guy to come into the locker room and he shows a little vulnerability, that’s a problem.
"That’s what I mean by the culture of the NFL. And that’s what we have to change. So what’s going on in Miami goes on in every locker room. But it’s time for us to start talking. Maybe have some group sessions where guys sit down and maybe talk about what’s going on off the field or what’s going on in the building and not mask everything. Because the (longer) it goes untreated, the worse it gets.”
Lack of understanding
Loss of many close friends causing more pain
A realization of how my disease has affected me and others, especially those I love.
The lack of coverage that allows more than a 45 minute visit 1x a week.
The lack of individualized treatment plane
Inherent flaws in the MH System
Now, in me, you have someone who was fairly successful in today's society...but didn't quite fit. Now I know why and that is painful and scary. I did seek help, I was helped some by the therapist that diagnosed me but again, inherent in treatment is that social work has heavy turnover, not real continuous treatment by one therapist so when a new one comes in, its like starting all over again
I still hope one day to help others. I do hope that people will listen. Those of us afflicted with a MH issue are not freaks, weird, WANT to isolate and be isolated.
Imagine living in a world you don't like, you don't fully understand and in many cases don't fit in to society's acceptance.
There is no easy answer here. I know what it starts with though. And it can be as simple as saying
"I may not understand all you are going through but I care about you"
Validation of our pain is where it starts, letting us know we are loved is where it needs to get to