It's been a vital part of treating depression and personality disorders. It's one of the base components of Dr. Marsha Linehans' highly successful dialectical behavior treatment, also known as DBT.
So we know mindfulness begins and ends with being in the present. Outside of that it serves little purpose. It's a fancy way, and not intending to minimize it, of saying be aware. Which would require being in the present.
Being aware and present is really, really hard for some of us. Borderline Personality disorder folks (self included) seem to be in a class of their own where we prefer to drift in out own alternate reality. Not in a psychotic state just with different colored lenses. At least that's been my experience.
Borderlines/Bi-Polar's/Narcissists potentially tend to explode in anger especially if one of the (non inclusive) following occur.
1) Taken completely off guard by a comment that may surprsie you, confuse you or otherwise not be what you had expected
2) If we feel attacked. This can range from mild disagreement to a complete misunderstanding where our anger and rage do not allow us to be rational
3) If we feel our "rights" are being trampled on. These are probably self created rights.
4) Begin to feel abandoned, real or perceived.
5) Some days we just wake up feeling angry or some slight enters our mind(SEE-DONALD TRUMP AT 6 AM)
6) Basically being challenged which creates a fight or flight tendency
So my own issues of getting angry for no real good reason or even a good reason (often my reaction is way above the transgression...like at a minimum lecturing a child for 30 minutes over something that could be handled in 5)...these anger outbursts and/or over reactions are really based on behavior we never even knew we had to control. I do believe however these can be improved on...not preaching a cure or any sort of guarantee and it takes some work on your part...but it can get better.
About 2 weeks ago in my traversing on Twitter my travels led to some profile (Don't even remember who) and it had a simple sign. It had a blank white background with the following words written in black
Dear God give me the strength to look at humanity through your eyes
I'm personally not really evangelical nor do I fell called in that way. I know I have gifts and many of those are in support and so that's where I feel I fit in best. Supporting others in areas ranging from infidelity to Mental Health and where does God fit in. Anyway I digress
The song was wide ranging and all encompassing but I thought...what if I just focused on people I know. The people I spend the most time with Family, Friends, Bosses, Co-Workers, etc...Being unemployed, for me tit's my family.
I realized that it was really easy to be short with my wife and kids. I could often express anger too quickly and sometimes again above the transgression. Now the old me would have beat myself up but would never really change, the cycle would continue...which we see in things far worse than anger.
Could I catch myself in time when I began to feel anger rising up? Could I stop and see them through God's eyes. Is this what he saw?
Needing my love
That's how he views us. He loves us. There is never any condemnation, only conviction...don't let others convince you otherwise. He will move your heart if you let him. He doesn't ask for intermediaries he asks for a 1:1 relationship....here endeth my evangelism for today :-)
Whether you believe in God/Jesus/Holy Spirit it doesn't stop you from trying this mindfulness technique.
When you feel anger...try to stop and look at the person as someone that can be vulnerable, is needed and needs love and affirmation. They have their own hopes and we all need compassion.
Try to look through his eyes.